Time, there never seems to be enough of it.
There are relationship, career, personal interest, family and social demands all screaming for attention in our life. We have the same amount of time available as we begin a new day, 24 hours to use or abuse as we see fit.
This is not an article about time management; time management is a misnomer. You can’t manage time. Time passes oblivious to your needs, desires, problems, goals, expectations and dreams. You can only manage a variety of activities and attitudes within a framework of passing time. Well, if we can’t manage time, what can we manage? We can manage our resources, decisions, thoughts, expectations, problems, people, failures, activities, successes, risks, feelings, goals, money, emotions and a whole host of attitudes.
Let’s get to the heart of the issue. Many people live with daily frustration unable to manage some or all of the items on the previous list effectively. They are anxious, troubled and often angry at the relentless passage of time that is insensitive to their wishes, demands, frustrations and goals.
Many of these people feel stuck, have given up, or have settled thinking this is just the way it is, and has to be. They see themselves as a pawn to the demands and expectations to one or more areas of their life. Therefore, robbing themselves of the pleasure and happiness that is available to everyone.
These people are out of balance, and they know it. They are puppets on a string waiting for the next tug that pulls them this way or that. They feel like their life is out of control, and they feel stuck. They see themselves with very few options, and they don’t realize that the choices they make, or have made in the past, determine their next options. We all have choices, but if these choices are made with a narrow vision of what can be, an unclear picture of reality, or clouded perceptions and interpretations of people and circumstances, they will always be made with limited resources and understanding.
These people remain stuck. Some have moved on, but they still feel unable to shed the feelings of anxiety.
There are several major areas in a persons life that demand a portion of their available time. They are: family, career, social, personal development, spiritual development, physical development, personal interests or hobbies, friends, social activities, and let’s not forget time to sleep and eat.
Is it possible to live a balanced life? Is it possible to satisfy the expectations either from ourselves, our or world on how we should be using our time? Is it possible to have it all? Become it all? Do it all? See it all? Learn it all? Read it all? No, it’s not that kind of world.
So we are back to choosing. How each of us chooses to use or spend our time is a very individual matter. Juggling the expectations of a boss, customer, a spouse, children, parents, friends, siblings, and the world in general is a difficult and delicate task at best. No one has an answer, or easy formula to this very difficult issue. You will not find an answer in this article. What I hope you will find, is insight or self-discovery as to your feelings, courage to modify any behavior or attitudes that are sabotaging one or several areas of your life.
You may have noticed that when one area of your life is out of harmony or balance it impacts every other area as well. When you are devoting too much time to your career, every other aspect of your life is impacted. Every aspect of your life is intricately entwined with every other area. If you choose to devote no time to your personal growth, you will lack skill, understanding or wisdom that could contribute positively to some other aspect of your life. By the same token, if you spend time regularly relaxing or meditating, it could help you find the patience or calmness you need in your career or family issues.
Why do people get out of balance? There are a number of causes that include, but are not limited to:
Unrealistic goals or a lack of goals, lack of planning, a need for approval and/or acceptance, inadequate personal growth, over estimation of abilities or skills, the inability to say no, the desire to please, lack of discipline, arrogance, greed, insensitivity, lack of spiritual development, un-managed ambition, the need for power, un-checked egos, lack of commitment and a lack of congruence or integrity. Hefty list. I would guess that everyone who is out of balance in their life is guilty of several of these. However, it only takes one.
Being out of balance in life doesn’t feel good. We often feel like the special people in our lives are being cheated. What you might not realize is that you may from time to time cheat your children, friends or a spouse, but you are always cheating yourself no matter where you are, who you are with or what you are doing.
Life is lived in the present, one moment at a time. It is not lived yesterday or tomorrow, but now. Every time you make a decision to spend time in a certain way, like passing time reading this article, you have eliminated all other choices of time. Once you decide to go to a movie, you have eliminated the options of dinner, dancing, golf and so on. Once you decide to work late you have chosen to sacrifice something else. I don’t mean to be funny, but you can’t be in two places at once. You can’t be on vacation and at work too, although many people try. Once you choose one restaurant for dinner you have eliminated all others for that meal.
People need to understand that they have choices, and that the choices they make, and the consequences that come with them are a part of the bargain. Frustration sometimes sneaks into people’s lives when they believe it is possible to break the rules and have it all, do it all or become it all.
You chose your career and life path. You chose your current relationship. You chose your current circumstances by the previous choices you have made. You made them for you. Even if you are in a career that was chosen for you by your parents, and that happens less and less today, than years ago, you have chosen to stay in it even if you are unhappy. You have given the power in your life over to someone else.
If you rationalize that you have to work eighty hours a week and weekends because your boss or organization expects it, you have given up your power to someone else. Then you might say, but I need this job or career. I need the money. No, you have chosen to need it. You could have chosen a different lifestyle that would have required less income. You may feel like you are stuck in a relationship emotionally, physically or financially. Again, I doubt that anyone forced you into it. You may have gone into it with closed eyes, but you chose to keep your eyes closed. Like it or not in every situation in life you are where you are because of your choices. Want a better life? Make different choices.
I would like to share 15 ideas with you that may help you put balance back into your life, so that you can find time for the people and goals in your life that are possibly being shortchanged, including yourself.
One: Spend some quiet time reflecting on the quality of your life in general. Not just a single area, but consider every aspect, and the relationship of each to your overall life.
Two: Make a list of all the areas or people in your life that are coming up short and why.
Three: Determine which area of your life is getting most of your time and energy, and which is getting the least. Ask yourself why? Is the gain in one area worth paying the price of a loss in another area? Only you can answer that question, and only you will pay the price or enjoy the rewards.
Four: Write a letter to yourself about how you would like your life to look like six months from now. Describe in detail how you spend your time, and what proportions of time are dedicated to the various activities and people in your life. More
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